What if you could live and do the things that made you happy every day? How many people do you think could tolerate you? LOL. If I could count the numbers of times I hear people say they “just want to be happy” and then list all the things they would do, and the types of individuals they would encounter, work with, befriend I know they really want to believe that, and live with a bountiful amount of joy, but how much effort do you think we put into making it really happen for us?
Well, as someone who designed a life that she personally loves and appreciates living in, even in a pandemic, there’s a lot of things I don’t do and there’s also a lot of folks who can’t handle that I’m not doing things with them when they want and expect me to. This is not due to an undying list of people that are miserable or not living on purpose (though I do think many more people could live on purpose). The reality is really that when I intentionally decided to change my life, which I talk about in my book, I stopped spending time with a lot of people, and many other people I used to know didn’t stick around. Now, let’s slow down for a minute. I don’t want to give the impression that people and places all changed for the same reasons. They didn’t. Some things were aligned, for example, I knew where I wanted to live and so, I’m living in my beautiful home as I write this. I knew that I wanted a vast and diverse portfolio of work that I love, and I continue to receive, thanks to the Most High. But, the people around me changed for different reasons, some of which I knew because I had to shift people’s positions. And others, for reasons I still have no idea about. Such is life.
Every well-lived life coach, from Les Brown to Gary Vee illuminates this people-problem all the time. However, I don’t see it as a problem. My life is peaceful. I do what I love. I make money that helps me live the life I desire, invest with and grow. I eat well, sleep well, and have the kinds of love in my life that’s pure. Isn’t that a happy life? Well, that’s subjective. For me, it is. My peaceful life is my happy life. What kind of life are you living? What adjective would you place before “life?”
Does it have the people in it that you want there? Does it include a spiritual renewal practice or several practices? Is your body thanking you for living on purpose and with a faithfulness that reverberates in all aspects of your life—from financially to interpersonally? If there are one or more parts of your life wheel (education, spirituality, financial, relationships, health, personal development, lifestyle) that could stand upleveling where would you begin
*This blog is about becoming free. It’s a reflection of introspective thoughts and experiences that have crossed miles of self-discovery. I created this blog to inspire others to live life with less self-criticism, judgment and openness to new experiences. May you find that you learn how to live a life by design and on your own terms!*