Finding the Source of Your Stress and Crushin’ It!

If this time we’re living in has taught me anything, it’s been to find ways to have less stress. But, how does one do that when the world is turned upside down? Well, let’s talk about that.

The question I’m usually seeking to answer is, how do I live my life in a way that gives me joy, without the pressure of making it all look easy to myself and anyone else around me?

Asha Tarry, Life Coach

For example, are you the only one that is producing more tasks for yourself than the other adults in your home? Or if you live alone, are you trying to fit everything you need to accomplish into one day? Sometimes, separating the wants from the needs on your “to-do” lists can lessen the anxiety you may feel creeping up when work life and personal life seem to be blurred and simultaneously overwhelming.

If you often feel fatigued after doing a limited amount of work, or you go through great lengths to avoid your weekly or monthly “must-do’s”, such as grocery shopping and laundry, possibly it’s due to the things you know you have to do competing with the things you want to do. So, here are a few hacks for your new D.C. lifestyle (doing corona- as in, living in the time of coronavirus):

      • At the end of your weekend make a short list, of 1-2 “MUST-DO THIS WEEK” tasks and commit to completing at least 1 of them before the due date. For example, if you need to stock up on toiletries and deep clean your bedroom, perform the task that will give you the most relief for longer, first.
      • Put a notification, or two, on your phone 2 days before a VIP- very important problem – becomes an emergency and get it done by the 2nd notification.
      • Remember the first task where I mentioned creating a short list of self-care habits? Well, if you were able to complete one of them before the due date, go ahead and nudge yourself to do the second one right after. This way, once it’s done it’s done, and you can use the extra available time to do something more interesting or relaxing.

P.S. If you’re anything like some of the people I work with, you will reallocate a small part of your budget to hiring external services to perform the tasks you dislike the most, such as housekeeping or laundry. Not only does it save you time, but it’s not as costly as you may think. I’ve even found through my own trials that dropping off laundry versus doing it myself is in some cases less expensive. But, if you personally have a thing against someone else touching your dirty clothes, then you will be left to doing it yourself.

The point I’m making here is when it’s hard enough most days for people to roll out of bed and put on a professional looking top for their zoom calls, it may not hurt to consider what community services you may be overlooking. Just sayin’…it may be worth trying at least once.

*This blog is about becoming free. It’s a reflection of introspective thoughts and experiences that have crossed miles of self-discovery. I created this blog to inspire others to live life with less self-criticism, judgment and openness to new experiences. May you find that you learn how to live a life by design and on your own terms!*